Ladies and gents, it’s time for your weekly dose of wisdom from the lips of Scotty Love. This week, Scotty and his daughter shed some light on parenting – the wrong way.
The Scotty Love Show is a 12 part video Bible study designed for men’s groups, using humor and Bible study to help men become better leaders, servants, and followers of Christ.
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Loving Your Kids
Key Scripture: Proverbs 1:8-9, Ephesians 6:4, Proverbs 22:6.
What’s one of your favorite memories with your Mom or Dad?
Do you remember a time when your parents got really angry with you? What did you do, and how did they handle it?
Did you ever bust your parents doing something they should not have done – or that they would not have let you do? What was it? How did they respond?
Of all the titles you will hold in your life, “father” is far and away the most challenging. It’s also one of the most important. In addition to caring, nurturing, and providing for the physical needs of their children, God gave parents the awesome responsibility of teaching those children to walk in the steps of Jesus.
Teaching kids to follow Jesus isn’t as simple as telling them what to do. You have to model it. Kids are always watching, and when they see a parent who doesn’t practice what they preach, it can kill their faith. Our children need us to teach them God’s Word. They need us to be active in their lives, not lecturing from a distance. And they need us to live the life we want them to emulate – which means we need to live the way Christ taught us to live!
READ AND DISCUSS
Read Proverbs 1:8-9
What does Solomon’s instruction for his son tell us about the job of being a parent?
What instructions does God expect parents to give to their children?
Why did God give this job to parents, and not to teachers or pastors or someone outside the home?
Read Ephesians 6:4
What does it mean to exasperate our children?
What are some of the ways we frustrate our kids with our instructions, rules, and teaching?
Why is it critical for parents to make time for their kids?
Why is living what we preach more important than the preaching part? Do kids learn more from words or actions?
Do you remember any instances of your parents telling you, “Do as I say, not as I do?”
Dads: Can you think of any examples of a time when you exasperated your kids, either through your own impatience, anger, or bad example?
How can we address our mistakes with our kids to show them we know we did wrong and want to do better?
Dads: How hard is it to make time to play with your kids?
What are some things you have in common with your children, activities you can do together? If you’re not a parent yet, what are some hobbies you hope to share with your kids?
How can you use that hobby to teach spiritual lessons? Brainstorm together to find ways that fun time can also be a time to build faith.
Are there some areas in your life you need to straighten out so you can be a better example to your kids?
Dads: What steps are you going to make this week to become a better Dad?
Non-Dads: What can you do now to prepare yourself to be the best Dad you can be?
Your kids are your most important investment – more than any savings or retirement fund or even your old comic book collection. They are the future of the church and the future of this world. As someone once handed their faith down to you, it’s up to you to pass that faith on to your children.
Make time for your kids. Teach them what the Word of God says. Then live it every day. When you mess up, don’t sweep it under the rug. Confess your sin, tell your kids you know you messed up, and let them see a real effort from you to set things right.
Read Proverbs 22:6.
Train your kids by setting the example for them with your life. You may not see it, but they really are paying attention!
Thank you for the gift of children. Forgive us for the times we fail you and our kids. Teach us how to set the example in our homes by living like Christ. Let our kids see a life in us that they will copy as they grow older.
In Jesus’s name,